You can lose yourself in "mom" it's time to find yourself again.
"Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else's happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right thing is... and to forgive yourself, over and over again, and for doing everything wrong." - Donna Ball
Transitioning into motherhood is exciting and joyful; it can also be challenging, exhausting, and overwhelming.
Maybe you're thinking:
- But, I wanted this... this is supposed to be the happiest time of my life.
- I thought this was going to be easier.
- Why am I not feeling the love/joy/happiness?
- Why do I see my friends coping so much "better" then me?
The reality is that your whole life has changed. Some might say it has turned completely upside down. The baby won’t sleep. You don't sleep. You’re exhausted. So exhausted and yet, you can’t put the baby down. You're up at midnight, 130AM and 3AM with a crying (screaming) baby. You're bouncing/walking/singing all day and night to provide comfort to your baby. Your kitchen/bedroom/bathroom is a complete mess. You've used dry shampoo for 3 days in a row.... You could really use a shower. You'd really like a hot cup of coffee (to drink from start to finish in one sitting). You even wonder if you're ever going to be able to "do this".
The post-natal period is described as the first six weeks post labour & birth. Though, it is estimated that one in four women experience postpartum anxiety/depression at some point in that first year. There doesn't have to be a history or previous diagnosis in mental health to be "at risk for postpartum depression / anxiety / rage". Sometimes it creeps in without anyone (not even you) noticing. You may be feeling pretty anxious, sad, depressed and/or are having some pretty intrusive thoughts.
Here is a list of PPD/PPA symptoms*, that are not limited to feeling "depressed":
- not being able to see the "funny" side of things (ie. laughing)
- not looking forward to enjoyment of different things
- not feeling like "yourself"
- feeling so unhappy that you have been crying (maybe a lot)
- feeling scared or panicky for "no good reason"
- feelings of helplessness and/ or hopelessness
- difficulty making decisions/concentrating/sleeping/eating
- isolation and withdrawal from community and support people
- frequent feelings of “I can’t do this”
- intrusive thoughts, images, fears that you can not stop and that you know are wrong
- irritability, impatience, rage
* You could experience all or a variety of these
Reaching out for support can be hard, but it doesn't have to be. I want to help you find that piece of yourself that got lost in all the sleeplessness, hormones and dirty laundry.
No matter where you might land on the PPD/PPA scale... THESE symptoms are temporary and very treatable with professional help. I can help you slow down. I will provide you with tools to cope with uncomfortable and intrusive emotions. You will be guided to a place of relaxation, trusting in your body & intuition and finding joy in your new lifestyle.